{LOCKED FROM CROSS AND ANITA}

[sears]

I hate Cross Marian and everyone like him.

I also hate people who let people like him use them, don't even care that he's a self-absorbed jerk, and defend him even when he's being rude to and insulting their supposed friends.

Comments

i like how i antagonise and comfort azula at the same time lmfao.......

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

But there are sides to people not many other people know. And isn't the point of being someone's friend that you stick by them no matter what?

ffff

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

She didn't stick by me.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

Maybe she did in a way that she tried to achieve what was best for you. A person can argue against you to stop you getting in a fight or a bad situation and still be your friend.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

She lectured me for rightly warning her about a jerk that was just going to try to use her, but when he insulted me, was rude to me, and tried to intimidate me into letting him do what he wanted to her, she said nothing.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

But, looking at that post, you were fighting with him. Wasn't she just trying not to get everyone involved in an unnecessary fight? She'd already stated her piece and said it was alright, so I think she just wanted it to end there...

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

I wasn't fighting, I was telling him to back off.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

It started a fight, whether or not that was what you intended. I think she just wanted you both to stop.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

He started the fight! I wasn't going to let him get away with that behavior just because she was willing to let him walk all over her!

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

Maybe there was a reason she thought that was the best approach? And if she wanted you to leave it to rest, as her friend I think you should have respected her wishes, but...

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

If she doesn't stand up for herself no one will. Being a good friend is about making sure nothing bad happens to them even if they can't or won't do it themselves.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

That's not true, because bad things have to happen eventually. Being a good friend is about supporting their decisions when they really believe that it's the right one.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

But he'd hurt her and a good friend wouldn't allow that!

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

In the end, it comes down to whether you trust her enough to let her make her own judgements and decisions, I guess. You can't decide things for her if she's really your friend.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

It's not a matter of trust.

She didn't even care what he was saying about me anyway, so I guess she doesn't really want to be my friend.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

Please don't say that. Look (http://community.livejournal.com/dramadramaduck/4855155.html?thread=363013747#t363013747). She's only trying to stop a fight from breaking out, and she's not holding one of you in favour over the other. In fact, she was going to simply respect your wishes and stay out of it after you snapped at her.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

... I didn't snap at her.

And she was talking to me, not him. She's clearly blind to his faults.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

Suddenly saying "I'm not talking to you" is a little bit snappish.

"I want to give him the benefit of the doubt as anyone deserves." And she said she'd talk to him privately. That doesn't sound like she's blind at all.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

Well it wasn't.

He doesn't deserve any benefit of the doubt after all that, but she'd give the benefit of the doubt to a person standing over a body and holding a knife, even if they flat-out told her that they were guilty.

... And all she'll do in private is apologize for me, even if he's the one who should be apologizing to both of us. She doesn't like me any more or any differently than anyone else, she just feels sorry for me.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

Then I think she's a very kind person. It takes so much strength to overlook the faults of people like that. I can't even try to do something like that.

Mister Cross has already apologised to her. If you took a moment away to calm down and you just talked to him, he might understand where you're coming from and the situation would be resolved.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

He did not apologize. And he's just going to do it again and again if she keeps letting him.

[ceiling-neuro.livejournal.com]

It's a lost cause, you should give up now.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

Go away.

[ceiling-neuro.livejournal.com]

Oh, I only answer to sensei!

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

Neuro...

I don't want to believe there's something that could be a lost cause when it comes to a person.

[ceiling-neuro.livejournal.com]

You're wasting your time on someone who is rejecting logic.