{LOCKED FROM CROSS AND ANITA}

[sears]

I hate Cross Marian and everyone like him.

I also hate people who let people like him use them, don't even care that he's a self-absorbed jerk, and defend him even when he's being rude to and insulting their supposed friends.

Comments

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

If she doesn't stand up for herself no one will. Being a good friend is about making sure nothing bad happens to them even if they can't or won't do it themselves.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

That's not true, because bad things have to happen eventually. Being a good friend is about supporting their decisions when they really believe that it's the right one.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

But he'd hurt her and a good friend wouldn't allow that!

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

In the end, it comes down to whether you trust her enough to let her make her own judgements and decisions, I guess. You can't decide things for her if she's really your friend.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

It's not a matter of trust.

She didn't even care what he was saying about me anyway, so I guess she doesn't really want to be my friend.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

Please don't say that. Look (http://community.livejournal.com/dramadramaduck/4855155.html?thread=363013747#t363013747). She's only trying to stop a fight from breaking out, and she's not holding one of you in favour over the other. In fact, she was going to simply respect your wishes and stay out of it after you snapped at her.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

... I didn't snap at her.

And she was talking to me, not him. She's clearly blind to his faults.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

Suddenly saying "I'm not talking to you" is a little bit snappish.

"I want to give him the benefit of the doubt as anyone deserves." And she said she'd talk to him privately. That doesn't sound like she's blind at all.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

Well it wasn't.

He doesn't deserve any benefit of the doubt after all that, but she'd give the benefit of the doubt to a person standing over a body and holding a knife, even if they flat-out told her that they were guilty.

... And all she'll do in private is apologize for me, even if he's the one who should be apologizing to both of us. She doesn't like me any more or any differently than anyone else, she just feels sorry for me.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

Then I think she's a very kind person. It takes so much strength to overlook the faults of people like that. I can't even try to do something like that.

Mister Cross has already apologised to her. If you took a moment away to calm down and you just talked to him, he might understand where you're coming from and the situation would be resolved.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

He did not apologize. And he's just going to do it again and again if she keeps letting him.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

He could have apologised outside of the recording, and there was also this (http://community.livejournal.com/dramadramaduck/4855155.html?thread=362983795#t362983795).

I may not know her personally, but she seems like she's a strong woman. I think she has boundaries, and I think she'll know when something reaches them. You should trust her more to take care of herself. If she wants to do that, isn't it her own choice?

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

Just more proof that she likes him more than me.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

Why? Is she unkind to you?

[ceiling-neuro.livejournal.com]

It's a lost cause, you should give up now.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

Go away.

[ceiling-neuro.livejournal.com]

Oh, I only answer to sensei!

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

Go away.

[ceiling-neuro.livejournal.com]

You're not sensei.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

Neuro...

I don't want to believe there's something that could be a lost cause when it comes to a person.

[ceiling-neuro.livejournal.com]

You're wasting your time on someone who is rejecting logic.

[peoplesprincess.livejournal.com]

It's NOT logic!

[ceiling-neuro.livejournal.com]

A clear rejection of Sensei's logic presents itself.

[notanarthropod.livejournal.com]

It's not a waste of my time, she's just upset, and now you're antagonising her too. Stop it.

[ceiling-neuro.livejournal.com]

Stop what, sensei? I am merely engaging contact with the self-destructive hermit crab you wanted me to. Should I abandon my analysis of her?