Marriage is a means to an end, nothing more. And from a social standpoint, getting the "last pick" means very little-- it doesn't mean that my people disrespect me, or that I won't be followed loyally.

Of course I want to marry someone whose family has a spotless reputation, but if that isn't possible, a few transgressions in their history is hardly a disaster. Nobility and rank is far more important. My own family, for example, unfortunately has several traitors-- but that doesn't mean anything when it comes to the big picture. We don't allow a few bad apples to spoil the bunch.